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Dating Stinks

Dear Philippa:

My New Year�s resolution is to get out of the dating rat race and find a wonderful woman�I�ve had it with all the fun and games stuff. I�m finally ready to settle down. Now what?

�James, Memphis

Dear James,

Congratulations. The first step to achieving anything is to know what you want.

I�m not big, however, on resolutions or anything that implies you have to achieve a goal. When world-class athletes want to realize an objective, they use the power of visualization. That�s seeing in your mind a picture of what it will be like to achieve your goal. They also learn how to believe that this goal is possible so they don�t have block themselves by forcing anything to happen. They see it in their mind, they believe, and they relax and let it happen. The results speak for themselves. They far exceed what they would achieve with simple effort and determination.

This is what you need to do too. Imagine what your life is going to be like with the right woman sharing it with you. See the things you are going to do together and imagine how it will feel with her in your life. You don�t have to imagine what she looks like�just focus on how great it feels being together. You know that you will find each other attractive in all possible ways.

Let's get off a time schedule. It could take a day, a month, a year�who cares, she�s out there looking for you too, and you know it�so let it happen.

Go about your life, being socially active, meeting people, but not expecting everyone you meet to be the right one. If you can relax, visualize, and believe in your success, you will start attracting more of the right type of women anyway. Enjoy the journey�you�re already part way there.


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