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Going SoloSingle Life in the 21st Century

Monday 19 August 2002
Ask Philippa

Philippa Courtney is the author of the '4 Steps to bring the Right Person into your life Right Now!' She was born in Leeds but now lives in America.

When I was growing up in Leeds the hot places to meet boys were record stores, followed by walks in Roundhay Park and consummated by snogging in the back row of the Odeon cinema.

Men and women in US cities generally don't meet casually on the street or at a coffee bar.

Sex is like the elephant in the middle of the living room, you can pretend to ignore it but it's still there on every date.

Americans are creative people. They have devised all kinds of clever ways to help people meet...online dating is huge here, as is using matchmakers, followed by speed dating and video dating clubs...and with the dating I've done I became an expert at using them all.

Seven years ago I met my husband through a cheeky, yet carefully crafted personal advertisement I placed in a local newspaper and we're still happily married.

It doesn't matter if you come from Leeds, Yorkshire, or from Lubbock, Texas. Single people the world over face the same issues.

Everyone wants to know how to meet someone, how to tell if they are interested, and how to make them want you as much as you want them.

All that wouldn't be so difficult if we weren't thinking with the wrong part of our anatomy.

Sex is like the elephant in the middle of the living room, you can pretend to ignore it but it's still there on every date.

Everyone wants chemistry with the person they're dating, but you also need compatibility and comfort for it to work.

Lust blindness
To avoid lust blindness, don't shop when you're hungry; instead decide before you're dating how you want to feel when you're with someone. If someone knocks your socks off but you still feel uncomfortable, nervous, or insecure around them, why bother?

There is no magic answer to the question, 'What is the best way to meet someone?'

The fact is the best place or activity to meet someone is where you feel your best.

Nervous or needy people turn people off. So the main thing is to choose a way of meeting people where you feel comfortable and in your element.

Identify where you shine so that while you are there people will see you enjoying yourself.

Philippa Courtney at www.meant2be.com


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